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There Is a Way Through This.
1:1 divorce coaching for men — in person in Los Angeles, or online anywhere in the US — with someone who has been exactly where you are.
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The problem
You're showing up. You're just not there.
The worst moment is the morning.
You wake up and it hits you again. It's real. It's actually happening. Your confidence is gone. The foundation of your life — your marriage, your family, the story you told yourself about who you were — has crumbled.
Then you get up and go. Because that is what you do.
You show up at work. You show up for your kids. You keep your commitments. By every measure that shows, you are still functioning.
But your mind has become your enemy.
You replay what went wrong. You fear what comes next. You beat yourself up — and you cannot stop. You go to the office. School pickup. Dinner with friends. You are there. But you are not present for any of it.
The thought that hits before you are fully awake: I failed at the most important thing I have ever done.
That is not weakness. That is what happens to a capable man when the foundation of his life cracks open.
But it does not get better on its own.
The cost
The loop doesn't stop.
Every day it continues, it compounds.
You cannot do your best work carrying this. You cannot be the father your kids need right now. The gap between how you look to the world and how you actually feel — that is exhausting to maintain.
You have already tried to push through alone. Maybe you tried therapy. Marriage counselling. YouTube. Instagram. Some of it helped, briefly. None of it touched the core.
The pain is still there every morning.
And there is a version of this that sounds responsible: I need to get stable first, then I'll deal with it. But there is no stable version of you waiting on the other side of doing nothing. The instability is not a reason to wait. It is the starting point.
The longer you wait, the longer you suffer.
The way out
I've been where you are. And there is a way out.
A week before my first book was published, my wife left me for another man.
I didn't see it coming. The one word I kept coming back to was shattered. My hopes, my self-identity, my self-confidence — all of it. I went into complete shock.
What followed was months of confusion, despair, shame, and anger. I couldn't sleep for weeks. The stress attacked my body. I developed a stomach ulcer. My rock-bottom moment: lying on the floor of my bathroom, crying while coughing up blood. COVID cut me off from friends and family. Nobody was coming to save me.
I had never felt so alone, so vulnerable, so disconnected from myself.
I didn't look for a shortcut. I meditated. I kept my routines. I faced the darkness in myself. Eventually, I understood what the experience was trying to show me: I hadn't fully loved and accepted myself. Every ounce of self-worth I had depended on things outside me — my wife, my achievements, the story I told about who I was.
Today I can look at the man in the mirror — with all his flaws and failures — and say he is the best man he has ever been.
I have been where you are. Not a version of it. The actual thing — the floor, the blood, the silence, the loop. That is why I do this work.
The work
This is not a program. It is a relationship.
I work with men 1:1. In-person in Los Angeles. Online for men everywhere else in the US.
Not through a curriculum. Not via a formula with a branded name and twelve steps. Whether we meet face to face or on a screen, the work is the same.
You get a guide and a mentor who will walk alongside you through this. Every step of the way. We meet regularly. Between sessions, you have a direct line to me — not for administration, but for the moments when things get intense and you need support before the next session.
The details — session frequency, format, investment — we work out together in the discovery call. This is not a commodity service, and it is not priced like one.
The men who move furthest through this work share a few things. They are willing to do the work. They follow through on what they are given. They are open to being pushed, not just heard. They believe there must be a better way than what they are currently doing.
They are right.
Results
What the work actually produces.
Case study — Liam Harrison
One of my clients, Liam Harrison, came to me six months after a 22-year marriage ended. He was emotionally raw. Using cannabis to cope. Unclear about his future. Struggling with his children.
Twelve months later, in his own words: “In total control of my life and acting from a place of personal power and conviction.”
New relationship. Left corporate employment. Built a jiu-jitsu teaching practice. Strong personal boundaries. Generational trauma — processed.
The person who walked into our first session and the man who walked out twelve months later. The changes were massive.
“He has a firm grasp of men's condition and psyche and he's excellent at zooming in on your particular issues and working through them. He's compassionate and knowledgeable — but he's not an armchair philosopher-therapist.”
Lauge Scholer
Clinical psychologist
“During and after my divorce, Nic was an absolute lifesaver. He helped me come to terms with everything and understand that it was all for my growth. The path he showed me has made me a much happier person, and I also have far healthier relationships with women.”
Danny Janevski
“If you are looking for a guide who has been through the same challenges you are currently facing, Nic is likely to have a lot of value to provide you.”
Ryan Dempsey
“Nic has a compassionate, no nonsense, direct and accountable approach that yields results. I consider him a mixture of big brother, life coach, and guide.”
Dr Robert Upton
Common questions
A few things you may be thinking.
"This is too expensive."
What is peace of mind worth to you?
Think about how compromised your life is right now. Your work. Your parenting. Your presence in any room you walk into. You are not effective with the energy you are carrying. You know that.
Now think about the cost of not addressing it. The cost in performance. The cost in your relationship with your kids. The cost in years of your life spent in a loop that will not resolve on its own.
The question is not whether you can afford this. It is whether you can afford to continue the way you are going.
"I've tried therapy. It didn't help."
Therapy and coaching are not the same thing.
A therapist keeps clinical distance. They follow a framework. They don't share their own story. I have been through what you are going through — not a version of it, the actual thing. I will tell you so, directly, in the first session. That is a different relationship.
The men who come to me after therapy say the same thing: it is the combination of lived experience and a holistic approach that makes the difference. The therapist didn't go through it. I did.
"I need to get stable first."
There is no stable version of you waiting on the other side of doing nothing.
The instability is the work. It is not a reason to defer it. The longer you wait, the longer you suffer. Why suffer any longer than you need to?
Get in touch
If you're ready to stop going through the motions.
The discovery call is a conversation. No script. No pitch.
We talk. I understand where you are and what you are dealing with. We figure out together whether working with me makes sense.
If it does — we work out the details then.
If it doesn't, for any reason — you have lost nothing but 20 minutes.